Marriage Minute from Gottman: Ways to Stay in Love

Happy couples consistently turn towards each other and choose each other every day. Remind each other why you fell in love (and stay in love) with these 6 ways to reignite the spark:

1. Stay screen-free during meals

This one is seriously underrated. Keep your phones away from meal time and see what conversations blossom just by being present in the moment. Want to go above and beyond? Make a goal to spend an hour together screen-free every day.

2. Schedule a weekly date

Yes, we sound like a broken record, but date night is so important. It gives you and your partner time to focus on each other. Want to mix it up? Schedule a date and keep the plans a surprise. The anticipation will spark a renewed sense of fun. Read this Marriage Minute from last week for date ideas!

3. Show up for each other 

In hard times and good times, make sure you are supporting each other. Trusting that you and your partner will turn towards one another in emotional moments, as well as in everyday conversation, is truly what good relationships are all about.

4. Start a relationship journal

Your love journal can be anything you want it to be. Write down what you love about each other, what you’re grateful for, or things you want to improve. Share your entries with each other and see how it opens communication in your relationship. Want a structured journaling experience? Try our 30 Day Relationship Journal.

5. Dream together

Take some time to discuss your individual and shared goals and dreams. Discuss your relationship bucket list and what you want your future to look like. Dreaming together helps build security and strengthens your bond.

6. Reminisce together

Reminisce about your favorite date nights, wedding day, honeymoon, and travels together. Pull out old photos and discuss your shared memories that are attached to strong feelings. This is an important part of building your love maps and will bring you closer. Want a guided way to tell your love story? Try our NEW Story of Us Couples Workbook.