John Gottman: F is for Friends

According to Dr. John Gottman, friendship is the foundation of a lasting, healthy romance. But that doesn’t mean you had to be best friends before you started dating.

Friendship in a relationship is something you build by sharing your stories, asking thoughtful questions, and making memories together.

When you truly feel like friends, you tend to see each other in a more positive light. That makes it easier to stay connected during tough times, give each other grace, and not take things too personally when conflict shows up.

At its core, friendship creates the trust and emotional closeness that long-term love really needs. It's what makes deeper intimacy—both emotional and physical—possible.

So if you’re looking to strengthen your relationship, start with friendship. It’s not just sweet, it’s essential.

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